SAECHAN's · BLOG

i need to read these book. its called "The Importance of Being Earnest" and "The Female Thing". i read an article today talking about "WE vs ME" about how to stay true to oneself when in a relationship.

the key to maintaining a sense of self and not getting lost is space. and they're less likely to betray their partners trust if they dont feel controlled, because "typically, control doesnt restrain people, it fuels their rebellion" according to Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity".

i think what i need to do is be able to explore on my own to strengthen my own individual self to bring back and share in my relationship.

"Sometimes the partner polarize, each becoming frozen in their behavior, which makes it harder and harder to find a balance of responsibility" -Perel

"Once the woman gave herself permission to basically have a life of her own, she became not only increasingly interesting to herself and to her husband" -Perel

his car broke down, his bank account was empty and he had no gas. he decided not to go on the snowboarding trip at the end but he still couldnt make it up here. maybe gods giving me a sign?